Yeah! Lift. Heavy. Shit! If you know anything about Bodybuilding, you know that in order to promote muscle growth, you have to push them to their limits. You have to shock them. You have to make the next session heavier than the last (naturally without hurting yourself! Don’t over do it!)

But have you thought about that the same principle applies to anything you do?
You want more flexibility? Stretch farther.
You want more knowledge? Read more difficult subjects.
You want a deep sense of spirituality in your life? Pray hard!
You want to learn a new language? Study hard and talk to people!
You want to be RICH? Study Money and Wealth and Discipline yourself!
You want to advance farther in anything in life?


And Do.It.Everyday!

Kill off that lazy SOB inside and get to work!

Nothing of any value in life is easily attainable. Some of the best are free, yes. But they take constant work to maintain.

Love. Relationships. Health. A Wealthy Mindset.

Some of those things may cost you some money, but it nothing in comparison to the benefits of having them.

Set Goals. Make them so HUGE that you first think that it’s impossible to achieve!

Take Massive Action. Take for granted that everything will take 10 times more effort than you think! But don’t let that deter you. If it scares you then you NEED to do it!

Starve Your Fear, Feed Your Passion!


Aren’t you tired of hearing about…

80/20 principle
80/20 Principle

Aren’t you tired of hearing about…

The 80/20 Principle?

So many so-called personal development “Gurus” talk about spending only 20% of your time on a problem and 80% of your time on the solution. Fine and good but what does look like? Let’s try an example:

Alloted time: 1 hour (60 mins).

That means I’m only going to spend 12 minutes complaining (or cursing, yelling, brooding, etc) and 48 minutes finding a solution. Can all problems be solved within 48 minutes? Of course not. :-/

Let’s try your waking day: 16 hours (if you actually get 8 hours sleep).

So that’s 3 hours and 32 minutes grieving, sighing, despairing, etc. and 12 hours and 28 minutes on the solution. Sounds pretty generous.

Nevertheless, none of us are going to set a timer next to us to really see that we only use the alloted time for complaint and NOT go over it.

Many things just don’t have a timeline on them or just the time necessary for improvement cannot be predicted.

Problems are still an emotional thing. We have to get ourselves into a certain frame of mind that mobilizes us to contemplate and then take action.

If you feel the need to complain a little longer than that “20% of your time”, then do so! Get it out of your system! When you need to be healed from an illness, you need to get the sick bacteria/virus out of your body in order to be healed. That can take many hours, days, if not weeks.

If you just got lout of a bad relationship, you have to sulk, cry, get angry, all that is necessary in order to move on and build up the trust in yourself before you enter a new relationship. That can take weeks, months, for some even years (unfortunate souls)!

The more you practice (yes, practice!) letting little things just roll off of you (like the guy who cut you off in traffic, the kid that stepped on your foot and didn’t excuse himself), the better you’ll be able to handle large catastrophes! Practice getting yourself into a good mood. Listen to your favorite music, watch your favorite film, re-read your favorite books and articles, call your best friend, go workout, eat your favorite foods (but don’t overdo it, please).

You need to take the time you need to do what you need to do!

Starve the Fear, Feed the Desire!

Think You’re Too Old to Have New Goals?

Let’s face it, depending on how far you are down life’s line before your deathbed, it may seem hopeless to try to turn your life around in a new direction. But the truth is, as long as you’re still breathing you can still transform your life. Guaranteed!

Humans are a goal-oriented breed. We need to have goals set for us whether we are aware of it or not. As soon as we’ve reached one goal we’re setting our sights on the next, and then the next, and then the next. It’s impossible for us to continue living without goals. Without goals we become stagnant and start dying! So, the fact that you are still alive and still living, there must be a goal that you’re reaching for somewhere deep inside of you.

What are your goals?

How do you assess what they are? Look into your hopes and dreams! Trust in them! Don’t make light of them and don’t think that any of them are just crazy. It’s been said that if you can image it, you have power within you to attain it. It’s that simple. Hard to believe? Think about your life up until this point. Haven’t you reached goals that either you or others thought were not possible for you? If you’re honest with yourself, you surely have. You have to remember these achievements in order to fire yourself up for the next success.


Have you experienced failure? Sure you have! Did it mean the end of your world? It may have felt like it at the time, but in hindsight you’ll notice that it wasn’t the end of your life. You’ve transformed yourself into a new life out of the lessons learned from those failures. “Those who’ve never failed, have never really tried!” True failure occurs only when you give up. Don’t be one of those who were too timid to keep on trying after failing once, twice or more! Life is too precious and short to waste time wallowing over past disappointments and setbacks. Grab your life by the horns (or by the balls, if you prefer) and go head on.

Scared? Good! That means you’re leaving your comfort zone. You know what they say; “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone“.

Starve the Fear, and Feed the Dream!

Stop Complaining!

Why are you complaining?

What USE is that?

I mean, it’s ok to be discontented, and that you want to voice your opinion on your situation, but keep it to a minimum. Why? Because only you can do something about it. Friends can maybe give you some insights, so you should listen to at least some of what they say, but please, please, please, not ALL of it!

It’s ok to proclaim that you’re NOT ok with your situation! You may want to keep the sordid details away from your friends, but don’t lie to yourself! Admit that you’re NOT fine. Then, devise a plan to MAKE things fine.

First off, if you think life has just handed you a sh*t sandwich, by all means DON’T take a bite! Go back and recount all the GOOD things that are going on in your life and use that to your advantage. Let it all pump you up to energize you to change your current situation.



Read it! Own it!


Recently, I watched the movie “Cloverfield” again (I’m a science fiction fan). Well, anyway, at a farewell party, before the horror starts one of the main characters is on a fire escape with his brother and best friend. The “Good-Bye Boy” is being told off about how he’s acting like a jerk by letting the love of life, the woman of his dreams, go while he goes to Japan for a new job as Vice-President of a company.
The Quote: “It’s a moments. Forget the World and hang on to the people that you care about the most.” At that second, the horror of the movie begins. Mass destruction by the highly improbable attack of a huge monster where all of the protagonists (and many more) die. (Still a cool film to watch)

A few weeks ago I was having a talk with my oldest daughter who has wrestling over a decision about what she was going to do with her life. A thought that most of us had to answer (or are still trying to answer).  I offered the advice to think about “what she would do for years, over and over, even if you wouldn’t get paid for it”. I told her that it has been estimated that 80% of the population work a job that they HATE! That’s absolutely terrible and sad. To think that the average person works 40 years out of their life at a job or profession, it’s an amazing waste of time out of the brevity of life. Life is much too short to waste so much time with something that one hates or with something that doesn’t fulfill them.

So, what do you do? START LIVING! Carpe Diem!
I believe you only have this one life to live, and you should NOT waste it! God, Allah, Yehova, Yahweh, Elohim, The Great Spirit …  no matter by what name you call Him, did not design the human to suffer, be sad, nor to be unfulfilled. The Human is creative and is intended to create and to come to realization, not only for him/herself, but for all of humanity.

Now, let’s get practical. It may not be possible to do all what we want immediately, but living life is project for life to be worked on continually and does not come to finality except in one’s own death. “The Way is the Goal”. Starting taking back and enjoy your life, piece by piece, every single day, and before you know, you’ll be living in the happiness you were intended to have.

Steeling my Armor

This is a continuation from my first post.

I have always been a fan and practitioner of the martial arts. Back in elementary school, I used to hang out with a neighbor who went to karate school. He would teach me and other boys what he was learning. I didn’t go to karate school myself those days. That was something that my mother couldn’t afford. Later in junior high school, she was sending me and my sisters to music school and art classes. I still hung out with the guys to practice fighting. I was never a bully, or the type of kid to pick a fight. No, I avoided them. I was afraid to fight as kid, but I knew I needed to d something.

Years later, after our mother became ill and died of cancer, while I was graduating high school and going onto college out of state, changing colleges and returning to NYC, and starting flunk out, it was time.

I good friend of my older sister’s came by one day. He was a man who walked with a cane because he had a hip problem. My sister told me that he wanted to take me somewhere. I knew him well-enough so I went along.

We eventually arrived the 5th of 6th floor of a building in downtown Manhattan. It was a Kung-Fu school occupying a floor in an small office building. We sat there and watched the class. It turned that my sister’s friend has been a student here for many years. After the class was over, he asked me what I thought. I answered in a way to try to prove that I had some idea about what was going on (I knew even less that I thought). Then, he said; “So, when are you going join?”. I was kind-of taken aback, although I should have seen that coming. But, I decided to join. I was 19 at the time.

The following Saturday I came to my first class. I ALMOST DIED THROUGH THE BEGINNING EXERCISES! We didn’t even get to the techniques yet. I was sooooooo unfit. I was a really skinny guy. After the class was over, the instructor told that Kung-Fu is NOT for everybody and I should think hard about that before continuing. I almost felt like quitting then and there! But I knew that if I didn’t come the next week, I wouldn’t come back at all. I continued to come every week, religiously, for the next 3 1/2 years. I eventually became a junior instructor before I graduated from college with my Bachelors of Music degree and started touring Europe. Marital Arts has continued to be my most favorite hobby since then.

I am now presently learning Wing Chun Kung Fu. I go train twice a week, work out at home, I’ve changed my diet by eating mostly vegetables, very little to no bread, cut down on alcohol, reduced my smoking habit (mainly by NOT taking them with me everywhere), and drinking a lot more water. I’ve reduced my body fat by about 2% so far (after 2 months), increased my muscle mass slightly, and I’m re-discovering the fighter in me.

Your biggest opponent is yourself, and you have to fight him HARD! He’s NOT an easy prey and he doesn’t give up that easily either. As I steel my body, increasing my health, strengthening my body, I reduce my fear of illness (one of my fears of not being able to conquer my enemy), and increase my confidence in conquering my biggest enemy.